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Our mothers had "Dear Abby" and we have "Dear Abiola." The love and lifestyle columnist shares her advice on how to live your most passionate life.

What kind of relationships are you manifesting? Let's be honest, you don't have time for any more dating disappointments, do you?  Click here to register for the free online Dating Dilemmas Summit.   Hey Sacred Bombshell, Let's be honest, you don't have time for any more dating disappointments, do you? Are you… Wasting your time on dates that are going nowhere? Going out with dudes that...
“Our moms had Dear Abby and we have Dear Abiola…” Dear Abiola, I have been married to my dear husband for two and a half years. Unfortunately, I have also been having revenge sex with a man at work for two years. It may sound like a mess, but my husband cheated first. I found out two days before we got married...
Introducing the Sacred Bombshell Self-Care Kits and the Sacred Bombshell Self-Care Challenge. Join us in NYC on 2/26/16 to put your self-love and self-care into action! Self care is an act of sacred self- preservation. Watch! Life after break ups... ::::Learn More About the Unbreak My Heart Chakra Self-Care Kit::::  
In this month’s Essence Magazine, I’m talking about how to turn up your desire. My Sacred Bombshell sister Damona Hoffman is a dating expert on the new FYI TV series, #BlackLove so I asked her: As a dating coach and a married woman, what do you advise women who feel bored or unsatisfied in the bedroom? Here's what she said... Damona Hoffman's Sacred...
How to have a romantic season? Come through, Cupid! Find the full scoop on my ESSENCE advice column here.  Your Guide To The Most Romantic Season Ever Tis the season that can be super stressful. Let’s do something more fun this year. Invite Cupid to come in. As the days get shorter and nights get longer, here are 8 ways to have the...
For some of us the jolly sound of a fat man singing "ho, ho, ho" is sacred. For others, it's a nuisance. Here's how to make sure you're still together after the holidays... Ah, the holidays! Most of us envision shared fun and good cheer. It's a wonderful feeling to go into the season of togetherness, knowing you have...
Let's talk about finding your voice... Hey Sacred Bombshell, Spiritpreneur School time, join me for a powerful, spiritual, inspirational, and motivational conversation with minister and entrepreneur Kia Granberry-Moore of LiveLoveKia.com. Over a year or so ago, she shared her stories with me on overcoming domestic violence. Those stories were featured on Bossip and in my last award-winning book, The Sacred Bombshell...
Find Your Soulmate Online in Six Simple Steps by Dr. Diana Kirschner
This week on Love School for Nerds, Jay and Abiola discuss a letter from a woman who has met someone at her job and cheated with him while being married. She is lost in love for lust. She is working to mend her current marriage, but is it really worth it? Take a listen and find out what Jay...
I'm an advice columnist for Essence.com. My "Dear Abiola" column dissects your relationship dilemmas every Tuesday. Last week I made a live appearance on the fun, new, high-energy talk show, "Essence Live." I answered a few of your advice questions about self-confidence, feeling worthy of love, and valuing who you are in mind, body, and spirit. Watch! Advice columnist, transformational...
This week on Love School for Nerds, we discuss a letter from a woman who has been cheated on by her husband. She wants to make it work but the mother of the child that was made from the affair isn’t making it simple. She wants to know whether she will ever get over this and can they truly move...