Iyanla Vanzant and Oprah Winfrey: What I Learned For Sure About Forgiveness (DIARY)
Passionista Principle: “When you see crazy coming cross the street.” ~Iyanla Vanzant
Last fall I was surprised and thrilled that Iyanla Vanzant suddenly popped up on the Hayhouse Radio schedule, Louise Hay‘s free 24 hour online inspirational station. I have been a huge fan of Iyanla’s since college. Her books Tapping the Power Within and One Day My Soul Just Opened Up were incredibly empowering for me.
My friends found themselves with Iyanla’s book In the Meantime: Finding Yourself & the Love You Want. We were loving her ride, on a life journey and a path with her as a guide, enjoying Oprah’s “Tuesdays With Iyanla.” Then came the weird “Iyanla” talk show produced by icon Barbara Walters, and Iyanla disappeared.
Here are the Top 3 Lessons I Learned… from watching Oprah and Iyanla duke it out and then thankfully, reconcile.
1) COMMUNICATION IS EVERYTHING.
2) KNOW YOUR WORTH.
3) LOVE MEANS NEVER BEING AFRAID TO SAY I’M SORRY.
4) BE YOURSELF.
It’s easy to speak the words be yourself but I have lost jobs because they felt I was 10 pounds overweight, thought I was too dark or at twenty-eight too old. When I was twenty-four my agent subtracted four pounds from my age to make me more hire-able and to add more years to my on-camera career. I’ve never been overly concerned about aging in real life in terms of biological clocks or anything like that but with work I have been extremely concerned. In any public work related stage where they asked, how old are you, I would reply, I don’t want to give an age, and they would say, you have to. So then I would give them what we call in the entertainment industry, the stage age.
Before this minute I saw lying about my age as a necessary evil of working in the entertainment industry but I release that now. I don’t want my walk and talk not to match. The biggest lesson I earned in watching the Iyanla Vanzant Oprah Winfrey interview is that no employer holds my fate in their hands. They are not my source. I may lose some positions but I release it. My work, my opportunities, my blessings come from a higher power. So there.
THANK YOU, Iyanla Vanzant and Oprah Winfrey for letting us into your healing process. It shows that none of us is perfect and that we can always learn something. I would very much enjoy Oprah giving Iyanla a TV deal now. Come on Oprah, you have you OWN Network in need of shows and a magazine in need of columnists like Ms. Vanzant.
Rock it, Iyanla. We wish you love and thank you for the love lessons.
And for this I am so grateful.